Anxiety Symptom

Anxiety symptom - can a Vipassana Relationship help?

What is love? That love is often defined as physical attraction is well known, but I don't like that definition. How about the love of a parent for its child? Many people would call that love... but I don't. In the example of my parents I already hinted to it. For me love is accepting someone without trying to change this person. Now ask yourself if you are capable of doing that - believe me, it is really hard!

You never hear much about Vipassana meditation affects partnerships. When both partners do Vipassana, all goes very well and the relationship usually turns out very harmonious. There are less upsets and quarrels and partners are better capable of discussing things and coming to agreements.

What I want to discuss here is partnerships in which only one partner does Vipassana meditation. In my experience, and in the experience of many others, this is rather difficult. Just imagine what it is like if you have discovered that drinking is not the thing for you but your partner still drinks? You want to shake your partner awake and say - hey, look what I discovered, look at the reasons why you are drinking - but your partner just does not see it that way. And that is only a small example.

You will also start going through a lot of storms. With Vipassana, you will be bringing up a lot of rubbish within yourself. This is necessary in order to get rid of it but chances are that you will be venting your frustrations on your partner, who will be asking what he or she has done to deserve this. They will also feel that due to Vipassana you have gone down, not up. And they will feel helpless to help you in any way. They will react to you rather than be sympethetic because they do not know what is going on. This is a very hard stage in a relationship. At least a Vipassana meditating partner understands this phase because he or she experiences it as well and can therefore support you through these difficult periods.

A partner will also find it difficult that you will change so much. In reality, we all secretly want our partners to change a little, but only in a way that suits us. We don't want our partners to change too drastically. And that is exactly what is going to happen. There will be many changes rather quickly and our partners do not have time to adjust.

To make a long story short, this is a stage that most relationships do not survive. But then again, there are cases in which they do. I even know a Vipassana teacher, who has been practising for many years and who is happily married. But it requires a lot of effort from both sides.

More next time on relationships and anxiety symptom